Chosen Family

A chosen family is a concept rooted in the idea that individuals have the agency to choose their own form of close-knit, supportive networks, akin to traditional family structures. These relationships are intentionally cultivated, nurtured through shared experiences, and are often marked by a high degree of trust, loyalty, and unconditional support. The beauty of chosen families lies in their fluidity and inclusivity. The concept recognizes the diverse ways in which black people of the African Diaspora build meaningful connections and find a sense of belonging, reinforcing the idea that family is not solely determined by blood, but by the mutual choice to love, support, and care for one another. In essence, chosen family in the African diaspora is more than a personal preference—it is a political, spiritual, and cultural practice of care. It’s a reclamation of connection and a form of liberation, rooted in the idea that love and loyalty are not limited to lineage but can be cultivated with intention and reciprocity.

Mike and Josh: The most romantic aspect of our chosen family is the love and acceptance we share. We've created a space where we can be vulnerable, open, and honest with each other. We've learned that family isn't just about blood ties; it's about the bonds we form with others who love and support us unconditionally. 

Josh: To me, being part of a chosen family is a sacred responsibility. It means showing up for one another, being present in the good times and the bad, and offering love, support, and understanding without judgment. It's about being a safe space for each other, where we can be our authentic selves without fear of rejection.

Mike: Having faith, a daily commitment to each other, a solid foundation built on transparency, honesty, and vulnerability keeps us going. In addition, monthly therapy individually and collectively, committing ourselves to do the inner-work. Moreover, we continuously find ways to keep our inner-child alive by basking in whatever brings us joy, big or small unapologetically.

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